Something that I have started to believe in

After several weeks of contemplation, I came up with this.

Instead of living you life like you have something to win, live your life like you have nothing to lose

A lot of pressure and stress in our daily lives is not living up to our/others' standards. Right from the childhood, we have been told to chase wins - be it the grades in school, the job you should get, the person you need to be, the promotion you need to get etc.

What I noticed is that besides stress, I started to take fewer risks in life - keeping your mouth shut in meetings, passing newer opportunities, ignoring the unorthodox paths etc. And inspite of having done all, when you get rejected, the whole house comes crashing down.

But, when you have nothing to lose, you have nothing to lose. I now take more risks, talk more often in meetings, have let go of my hesitation and feeling absolutely no stress at all.

The feeling in surreal!

I wish this was taught me 20 years ago.

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